Usually, it's the kids that have no filter and say whatever comes out of their mouths, but I've learned that it is truly some adults that don't seem to have the filter! I wrote a post back in December about things that strangers have said to us with NEWBORN twins, I've now been building a list of things people have said to us with 1 year olds (twins)!
Soo... are you going to have more kids? - Is that any of your business? Do I know you? No, I don't ... so why are you asking?!
After that question usually follows ... What are the chances that you will have twins again? Okay, to just put it all out there, to have twins in the first place, naturally, was 1 in 90 (Which I don't believe because there has been so many twins in our town/area this past year!!). Then, once you have a natural set of twins, your chances go to 1 in 9. So yeah, we have a high chance (risk?!) of having twins again. We will deal with that when we get to that fork. But thanks for asking!
Identical twins? They must be identical, I mean they look identical! - Actually, they're fraternal. They look completely different, and we're the parents, so we know them best!
How old are they? Are they walking? No, they aren't. Oh, are they crawling then? No, they aren't ... they bum scoot. Honestly, we've gotten this question SO much lately!!
Are you going back to work? - Another question that I myself would never ask a stranger! But, if you must know, I am attempting to go back P/T in the fall. Being a teacher, it didn't make a lot of sense to try and go back for May and June. I am enjoying these last few months at home with my babies!
I can't imagine. I don't know how you do it. - We have been hearing this from Day 1, and honestly, I don't know how I "do it" either. I have a lot of help. And, I have just decided to say "NO" to a lot of opportunities, because I simply can't get my shit together and "do it". I've also had to let go of my need to have a tidy and clean house. There are crumbs on the floor, toys spewed everywhere, finger prints on the appliances, you get the picture. But whatever it is I am "doing", sometimes I just have to "do it" and survive.
Enjoy these days. They grow up so quickly, and before you know it, they are out of the house, and you'll miss it all: the good, the bad, the okay, the wonderful, the noise, blah, blah, blah. - Please do not put the intense pressure on me to enjoy it all! Just because I have bad days, hard days, doesn't mean that I don't love my kids, doesn't mean that I don't cherish many of our moments ... but I sure as heck don't enjoy it all!
Aside from all the ridiculous things that strangers say to people with babies are some really fantastic things:
Let me help you with that - Whatever it is, if it looks like I am struggling, I probably am! My twins are now 20lbs each, and hard to hold both and do something else!
I'll get the door for you - As they see me trying to shimmy through the double mall doors with bags in my hands, whiny kids, and trying to find my keys
"I've been there. I see you, mama" - The simplest things mean the most
They are so cute/beautiful/adorable/amazing/wonderful - Yes they are ALL of that and much more. Thank you! We love compliments ;)
Also the following actions:
a smile, a hug, buying me a coffee, taking my kids off my hands for a few minutes ... thank you!
Thank you so much for stopping by! Do you have any one-liners that you hear regularly/get tired of/love hearing?! I would love to hear your experiences! Let me know in the comment section below!
MRS. + MAMA